Narcissists are everywhere whether we notice them or not. They are charming and kind, but also evil and terrifying, do you know a narcissist?
Below you will find a list of the underlying truths about narcissistic behavior. If someone in your life is a narcissist please do what is best for your own well-being. Sometimes it can be hard to understand why a narcissist does the things that they do, but I hope the following will help you too.
1. A narcissist’s behavior has NOTHING to do with you.
You are not the cause behind this person’s behavior. They are going to do the things that they do no matter who is in their life. The narcissist has a very fragile ego and this can cause them to be quite volatile at times. If they blow up on you over something they would normally laugh about it is because they are more stressed currently.
One compliment is never enough for the narcissist. They will never back down, nothing is ever enough for them, you need to know this so that you will understand better how YOU are not the problem. You are not the reason for their overcompensation.
3. It is easier for a narcissist to be angry than it is for them to be sad.
The narcissist uses anger as a coping mechanism. This protects them from their own vulnerabilities and is a reaction they cannot help but use.
4. The narcissist can only see things from their perspective.
The narcissist is not capable of seeing your point of view. They cannot begin to fathom how two people may have different but still valid points of view. When you try to give them your opinion on something because of this one-minded way of thinking they often react as if they are being attacked whether that is the case or not.
5. The narcissist is an all or nothing kind of person.
Something is either right or it is wrong, there is no in-between with a narcissist.
6. The narcissist does not apologize.
It is extremely rare that you will ever get an apology from a narcissist and when you do it will not be sincere I can guarantee you that.
Narcissists do not care about you. They will say and do things that WILL hurt you and they will not feel bad about the pain they have caused you. The narcissist while it is debated whether they can feel any empathy at all has at the very most a low empathy drive, they do not feel for you in the way you do for them.
8. The narcissist is motivated by a deeply rooted fear.
Yes, fear. The narcissist is terrified of something, this ‘something’ varies from person to person but generally, it is the fear they are not good enough. That being said this is something you alone cannot make them overcome.
9. YOU cannot change a narcissist.
No matter how much you want to or how hard you try you are not going to be able to change this person. Cutting ties with the narcissist is the best way to stop allowing yourself to be abused and to move on with your life in a positive manner.
Inspired by an article written by Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo for Mind Body Green.