What no one tells you about getting involved with a narcissist is that these people are masters of disguise and that you might not be aware you are dating one until it’s too late and you are deeply attached to them. And until you realize what is happening, the narcissist will leave you emotionally drained, broken, and alone.
And after you decide to say your final goodbye to the narcissist, it will take you a lot of effort and time to heal from them. Because…
The narcissist will completely crush your self-esteem and your sense of self-worth. You may start feeling completely lost. You may even feel you’ve lost your dignity and you just cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel.
The narcissist will make you vulnerable and scared to open up to someone new. You’ll have trouble start smiling again because you were used to be sad and anxious all the time.
You’ll build a defense mechanism of your own crafting. Maybe you’ll start avoiding people because you don’t want to talk about what happened. Maybe you’ll keep yourself busy doing anything you can to keep the narcissist out of your head.
Depression and anxiety will be your best friends. You might not have felt anxious and depressed in the beginning, but after some time into dating the narcissist, you will. Because anxiety and depression are the side effects of toxic relationships.
After dating a narcissist, you may lose your hope in the good in people. You can’t understand how some people can be so rotten at heart. How can someone enjoy inflicting pain to someone on purpose.
The recovery process that needs to happen in order to survive the narcissist is not an easy one. Many people around you won’t understand why you need that long to get over them. Don’t listen to them. Only those who really love you will stay with you through the whole process supporting you.
Because you will need more time than you think.
You’ll need constant reassurance from the people close to you. Because you forgot what it feels like to be carefree and fearless. You don’t know how to calm your racing mind. So, you’ll need to hear time and time again that you were right for breaking up with them and that everything is going to be okay and you’ll find love again.
You’ll struggle to allow someone new in your life because your faith in love was broken. Love now feels like a strange and evil thing to you. Because what you once thought was a true love, has turned out to be your worst nightmare. You are bruised, and you need time to heal your wounds.
You’ll apologize constantly even for the things you don’t need to apologize because you are used to it. You were blamed during the whole course of the relationship with the narcissist, so that’s why you’ll have trouble removing yourself from that guilt mentality.
You’ll start hiding your feelings because the last time you opened your heart it almost destroyed you. You learned that the more you showed your feelings, the more horribly the narcissist treated you. That’s why you fear getting hurt again.
You’ll need someone who understands. Someone who will help you heal through understanding, support, and love. You need someone who is really good at heart. Someone who is compassionate and loving.
Someone who’ll make your life better and show you that not all people are the same.
Because you deserve it. You are lovable. You are kind. You are gentle. You are a good person and you deserve to be surrounded only by good people.